The Mommy Wars are Over!

By Teri Hockett

Mommy Wars

Wouldn’t that be a great headline to read? One that meant women will no longer engage in any destructive behavior that does not advance our joint cause; and that we will no longer tolerate anymore references to this “supposed” ongoing battle that pit Stay-at-Home Moms (SAHM) against Working Moms (WM).

I envision a place and time where we all support each other’s choices; a time we can start to really accomplish great strides in all aspects of our lives. At this time we will freely assist eachother without fear of judgment or reprisal. We will now be a force to be reckoned with, and we will be able to achieve equality in leadership roles across the private and public sectors, and in the boardrooms. We will fight for each other’s rights. As long as we allow this battle to continue, we will be viewed as a splintered team that does not have the sheer power to move our agenda forward.

How do we accomplish such a lofty goal?


Every woman has the right and privilege to make the decision for herself and her family that best supports their needs. We all understand this, but some of us have allowed judgments, either real or perceived from others, to make us second guess our own decisions and to feel defensive about them.


What if every working woman who has been “leaning in” to her career turned around every once in awhile to extend her welcoming hand to a SAHM? We all have support groups but they are typically are divided between SAHM and WM. Working women have created amazing groups, conferences, workshops, and initiatives to help other working women. And SAHM also have many groups that support them. What we need is a blending of these lines. A community where all women come together to support each other regardless of where they are in their career, or what choices they have made.

Celebrate Differences

I firmly believe that if everyone looks, acts, or thinks like me; one or more of us are redundant and not really needed. I have been blessed by the diversity of my friends and associates, and as a result my life is much richer for sharing in their celebrations, holidays, traditions and beliefs. I know our school systems thought it was wise to teach tolerance, but imagine how different our lives would be if we were taught to celebrate the differences in the world.

To make great strides we have to start with small steps as we gain momentum.

What are your first steps to lay the ground work to end the “Mommy Wars”?

About the Author

Teri Hockett

Teri Hockett is the CEO of What’s For Work? The Premier Career Site for Women.

About What’s For Work?

The Premier Career Site for Women.

Our Mission: Provide a community that encourages members, employers and providers to work together; to inspire and help each other grow.


One thought on “The Mommy Wars are Over!

  1. Your article is so true. I remember when I was in the work force, and would take some time off and pick up my kids from elementary school other moms were not welcoming and it just shocked me. I told my neighbor of my experience she is SAHM as myself and she realized that she and other moms did the same thing to another WM. She said she will work hard to make sure she welcomes WMs in the future.
    I will not be a SAHM much longer.

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