Worry, worry, worry – when will it end?


By Dr. Cheryl Leitschuh, Ed.D.

Don't Worry

Worry is the wonderful emotion that drains our energy.  My experience is that worry focuses around two areas:  1) real issues that are so huge it seems we cannot ever solve it, or 2) issues that usually go away, with or without our worry.  Whatever your worry category, the solution is the same.  We need to understand our worry and identify what we can control and what we can’t.

Addressing worry is like cleaning out your closet.  YUCK!!  Who wants to spend time cleaning their closet?!  Every day we walk by the closet with pangs of guilt as we realize it needs to be cleaned but refusing to spend the time.  The guilt feels awful, but we live with the guilt rather than address the issue.  Finally, when the moon is just right, we decide to clean the closet.  In a short amount of time, the task is complete and how do you feel?  Often, the feeling of success and satisfaction far outweigh the longstanding guilt of not addressing the concern.

Here are the action steps to clean out the worry and restore your energy:

STEP ONE:  Make a list of five worries that are draining your time and your energy.  By moving this worry from your head to paper, you can now work out the solutions rather than spin in the worry.

STEP TWO:  Identify what you can do and what just needs time.  As I mentioned earlier, some of the worries we have are handled by time.  Some of the worry has legitimate substance.  Some worries contain both.  Identify it, as specifically as possible.  The more specific, the easier the next step will become.

STEP THREE:  Schedule time to address the “can do” items.  Don’t delay!!  Imagine the feeling of success and relief that will occur as you move forward with this list.  Break the tasks into small steps and GET TO WORK!

STEP FOUR:  Celebrate each item as you complete them.  What a great use of your energy – Celebration!!!

About the Author

Cheryl Leitschuh

Dr. Cheryl Leitschuh, Ed.D. is a leadership energy consultant creating environments of success for individuals, teams and organizations.  She is author of the new book, Leadership Energy:  Unlocking The Secrets To Your Success.  For information on services and  resources for individuals and organizations, visit www.TheLeadershipEnergy.com

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Why don’t my goals work?


By Dr. Cheryl Leitschuh, Ed.D.

Goals

It is not unusual for me to meet with someone who has an incredibly detailed outline of their goals.  It is sometimes layed out in a PowerPoint presentation with pictures and symbols.  To the outside world it looks as if they have a very focused and productive guide for the future…BUT, they will say to me, “These are the same goals I have had for the last 7 years.  I have made no progress towards these goals.  What is the problem?”  This month’s spotlight is to focus on what is missing when you have goals that you never seem to reach.

When you are faced with this frustration, there are two key questions that may give you the answers to shift your success:

  • Are my goals tied to something important to ME?
  • Do I bring my goals into my daily focus and activities?

Let’s look at each question in more depth:

1. Are my goals tied to something important to ME?

I recently met with a young, successful professional who was experiencing great distress in movement toward his goals.  The goal list was impressive.  When I asked why he had the goals on the list, the answer was something like “Well, that is what my firm wants.”  OR “That is what my family asks.”  The truth is, you will never achieve a goal if it is based on someone else’s desire.  OR you will achieve it with a feeling of obligation and, perhaps, anger.  Success with despair is not success!

Here is what we did.  We set aside the goals and focused on his vision for his life and career.  By using a structured process and involving the many factors necessary for an effective vision, we were able to define a vision based on HIS desires not someone else’s.  We then moved to generating a goal list based on this vision.  Guess what?  80% of what was on the previous goal list was also on this list?  What is the difference?  It was HIS list, not someone else’s.  The remaining 20% were goals that he needed to make his life more fulfilling and satisfying.

2. Do I bring my goals into my daily focus and activities?

Second problem with goals – if they do not bring focus in the present, they are merely a nice exercise to be placed on a shelf.  Here is the beauty of bringing your goals to the present:

  • The present is perfect because the present is all there is.
  • The present is perfect because you CAN do something about it.
  • The present is perfect because there is a gift in everything.
  • The present is perfect because you can learn quickly from it.
  • The present is perfect because it’s leverageable – what you do today WILL effect the future.

Trust me, someday will never come.  Only today is reality.  Do what you can to bring your goals to the present.  Put the list on your mirror, in your planner.  Make it something that is constantly in front of you.  Review it daily – or at least weekly asking:  What have I done today to move in the direction of my goals?  What gift has come my way to assist me in moving close to my goals?

About the Author

Cheryl Leitschuh

Dr. Cheryl Leitschuh, Ed.D. is a leadership energy consultant creating environments of success for individuals, teams and organizations.  She is author of the new book, Leadership Energy:  Unlocking The Secrets To Your Success.  For information on services and  resources for individuals and organizations, visit www.TheLeadershipEnergy.com

About What’s For Work?

The Premier Career Site for Women. http://www.whatsforwork.com

Our Mission: Provide a community that encourages members, employers and providers to work together; to inspire and help each other grow.